Compassus | Empathy

Finding just the right words

Angela, 33, grieving her mother

My mom was my best friend. But when I went to write her obituary, I froze. The words just didn’t come. I felt like I was letting her down. The Care Manager I talked to about it got me chatting about my mom: her favorite holiday traditions, her favorite possessions (a well-loved collection of Aerosmith concert tees). Then she walked me through the Empathy obituary writing process, step by step, until it was finished. I kept adding more, just writing and writing. Remembering everything. I was so exhausted, and so relieved. I think she would have liked what I wrote about her.

Finding a way to cope with sleepless nights

Joseph, 62, grieving his wife

All day I’m OK. It’s the nights that get you. When it’s 3 a.m., 4 a.m., I feel like the only person in the world. Watching TV doesn’t help. I can’t pay attention—all I can think about is my wife, and the big empty bed. I started listening to audio episodes on the Empathy app, to hear a friendly voice and not have the pressure to talk. Right away, I feel less alone. I’ve learned a lot about grief—and I share the episodes with my daughters. We’ve also been using the family collaboration features in the app, so they can help me with all the decisions we need to make about my wife’s belongings and accounts. But it’s nice to have something positive to share with them, too.

Clearing up IRA confusion

Melissa, 49, grieving her husband

My husband hadn’t listed me as a beneficiary on his IRA account. I’m the only beneficiary in his will, but for an IRA apparently that doesn’t matter. My attention span to work on a problem like this was just zip. My brain felt foggy all the time. I was walking around every day on no sleep, on autopilot. The person I chatted with at Empathy quickly helped me create my own IRA account, so I could transfer my husband’s money into it. Then she checked in with me over the next couple of weeks until I got all the funds. I can’t tell you what a relief that was.

Finding just the right words

Angela, 33, grieving her mother

My mom was my best friend. But when I went to write her obituary, I froze. The words just didn’t come. I felt like I was letting her down. The Care Manager I talked to about it got me chatting about my mom: her favorite holiday traditions, her favorite possessions (a well-loved collection of Aerosmith concert tees). Then she walked me through the Empathy obituary writing process, step by step, until it was finished. I kept adding more, just writing and writing. Remembering everything. I was so exhausted, and so relieved. I think she would have liked what I wrote about her.

Finding a way to cope with sleepless nights

Joseph, 62, grieving his wife

All day I’m OK. It’s the nights that get you. When it’s 3 a.m., 4 a.m., I feel like the only person in the world. Watching TV doesn’t help. I can’t pay attention—all I can think about is my wife, and the big empty bed. I started listening to audio episodes on the Empathy app, to hear a friendly voice and not have the pressure to talk. Right away, I feel less alone. I’ve learned a lot about grief—and I share the episodes with my daughters. We’ve also been using the family collaboration features in the app, so they can help me with all the decisions we need to make about my wife’s belongings and accounts. But it’s nice to have something positive to share with them, too.

Clearing up IRA confusion

Melissa, 49, grieving her husband

My husband hadn’t listed me as a beneficiary on his IRA account. I’m the only beneficiary in his will, but for an IRA apparently that doesn’t matter. My attention span to work on a problem like this was just zip. My brain felt foggy all the time. I was walking around every day on no sleep, on autopilot. The person I chatted with at Empathy quickly helped me create my own IRA account, so I could transfer my husband’s money into it. Then she checked in with me over the next couple of weeks until I got all the funds. I can’t tell you what a relief that was.

Finding just the right words

Angela, 33, grieving her mother

My mom was my best friend. But when I went to write her obituary, I froze. The words just didn’t come. I felt like I was letting her down. The Care Manager I talked to about it got me chatting about my mom: her favorite holiday traditions, her favorite possessions (a well-loved collection of Aerosmith concert tees). Then she walked me through the Empathy obituary writing process, step by step, until it was finished. I kept adding more, just writing and writing. Remembering everything. I was so exhausted, and so relieved. I think she would have liked what I wrote about her.

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