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Grief & Grieving

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Is there a right way to grieve?

It can be difficult to remember that everyone responds to loss differently when you’re in the midst of navigating grief yourself. There are, however, steps you can take to mitigate any internal or external pressures to “grieve the right way.”

When you’re angry at someone who’s gone

You might be mad at a loved one who has passed, and need to express that anger. Try not to feel guilty. Your anger is a manifestation of how much you loved them. And without it, the grieving process would be incomplete.

Back to work, with grief in tow

Returning to work and easing back into daily life after loss can be incredibly challenging and emotionally draining. There are some important steps you can take to make this process a little easier. 

Grief isn’t a feeling. It’s a process. Everyone experiences it differently, and you are the only one who can feel your feelings. But some understanding may help you come to grips with what you are going through.


Loss is hard. Its vocabulary shouldn’t be.

We speak the specialized language of estates and funerals so you don’t have to.


The person appointed by the court to handle the estate of someone who dies without a will.

The duties of an administrator are similar to those of an executor, but as there is no will to execute, he or she is named administrator and distributes assets according to a procedure dictated by state law.


The sum total of someone’s net worth, including all assets. From a legal standpoint, an estate is not simply everything the person owns, but the value of all of these assets minus any debts or other liabilities. Estates are calculated differently depending on their purpose.
For example, the taxable estate may include assets that are not in the probate estate.


A service held to commemorate someone’s life. Memorials are generally considered distinct from funerals in that they are held without the body present and are not focused on the burial, although services where the urn with the loved one’s ashes is present are also called memorials. Traditionally, a funeral is a more formal service while memorials are often more unstructured.

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